I wish to pose a question. Is it better to do what you feel or to do what you think? If I know anything I know that by asking a question, I more that likely already know the answer. The reason I ask this is that somethings been bothering me for a while now and I just couldn't put my finger on it until now, and it manifest itself in the form of a question. What is better to do? We spend most of our time making decisions, hoping that we make the right one. Sometimes our decisions are not what we want to do , but more about what we have to do or visa verse. Honestly that whole paragraph was just dancing around the real issue I'm having. Is it better to what you feel or should you do what you think is right. I myself am at a loss. In terms of relationships and politics I'm coming to find myself not knowing which way is up.
Relationships are a buzz kill. Now that I think about it no relationship ends well. Even a marriage of 70 years ends with the death of the person you love most. Geeze, I'm depressing myself. But I have to get this off of my chest. I might as well use this blog for something. I feel that I've become a prisoner of my own fears. You say, fear? What, the great lip talker having fears. Yes, fear. I should fear nothing but God but maybe thats it. Honestly I try to be good but in the end I feel bad either way. You say, whats good? And if something is good how do we know. Thats the question I've been trying to tackle for a while. I used to solve this problem by not making any decisions. If I liked a girl I wouldn't seek out a relationship but I wouldn't avoid one either. I just would never bring it up and just let things be as they were. All parties involved were free to do as they pleased. But one party wouldn't be satisfied with the arrangement and a question would be posed and a decision had to be made. Once made it's hard to take back a choice. Its like walking through a door that locks behind you. It's hard to separate feelings from your logic when making decisions. Maybe this is why people end up in situations they didn't want to be in.
I could go on forever about how people end up in relationships that they don't belong in but I really want to turn this argument toward the world of politics. Decisions play a huge role in politics, especially when it comes time to vote. 2008 is an election year and frankly I feel the same way about politics as I do relationships. I'm jaded. I tears me up inside when I have to make a choice not knowing which one is going to be the right one. Things are getting bad and its getting harder to know who to trust. The same people who say they have your best interest in mind are usually the ones trying to hurt you the most. Our elected officials consistently propose legislation on behalf of their lobbyists that doesn't have the publics best interest at heart. One example of this is the proposed legislation regarding net(or network) neutrality.
If you haven't heard of this and you're reading my blog then you should do your research because if internet providers like Comcast and AT&T get their way access to this blog and other sites like it might not be possible. The intricacies of this issue are too deep for me to cover in this blog but I can provide you with some links to help educate yourself on both sides of the issue and what you can do to help the cause. PRO PRO CON CON
What upsets me about the net neutrality issue is that we were all doing fine . The internet was doing its thing. Allowing access to billions of websites at the click of a mouse. And we the users were doing our thing, endlessly searching the web for discount books and videos of dancing bananas. Internet providers were getting paid and we were happy paying them. Then the provider got unsatisfied. They saw that they could be getting more from this relationship and now Comcast feels it has the right to pose the question and we have to make a decision. To me t's kind of crazy how things parallel. Who could have guessed that relationships and politics worked in similar fashions.
Wednesday, April 30, 2008
Thursday, April 10, 2008
That Leprichaun's On Acid...
Your brain ever feel fried? Like these eggs I’m cooking right now. A scene straight out of one those old-ass anti-drug campaign ads. I swear I thought the day would never come when I could truly say that I’m smoked out, and all that acid I took in high school didn’t help either. All I have to do is stare at a wall, a ceiling or some carpet and I can manipulate the pattern visually with my mind. Like when you look at one of those pixalated hidden 3-D object pictures.
I see all kinds of shit. If I look real hard I probably can see your nipples through your shirt. Just kidding, but really drugs are bad. A lot of people use drugs recreationaly yet others try drugs hoping for sexual benefits. Drugs such as Ecstasy, cocaine, methamphetamines and more recently E.D. drugs such as Viagra, Levitra, and Cialis have been and are being used to help out the old dysfunctional Wang. But there are so many side effects which can leave you even more dysfunctional then before. The answer to this problem I feel is as a society we need to turn to natural remedies such as ginseng and body butter, if that is natural. For all of those who don’t know, E.D. is the politically correct term for erectile dysfunction, limp d#&%, impotence or what ever else you want to call it. I can only imagine what it must be like to have the desire but not the ability to perform. And I can understand why some people think drugs are the only answer. But I’m glad to tell you that they are not. There are numerous natural remedies that can be used to counteract this common yet tragic circumstance. Sometimes the problem is as much psychological as it is physiological. I believe that slowing down and taking your time is the first step to a natural arousal. Tantric exercises can help one develop this faculty, as well as massage sessions. Also might I add that foreplay is totally underrated. Studies have shown. giving pleasure can stimulate the giver. So gentlemen eat up. Another thing that works are foods and natural remedies. Chocolate, ginseng, oysters and spicy foods all stimulate your brains pleasure center and flood your brain with pleasure-causing endorphins. So once again, gentlemen eat up, but remember you may need to bring a bib. So remember drugs can leave you fried. Side effects such as painful four-hour erections and blindness shouldn’t have to be the answer. Nature doth provide.
Thursday, February 28, 2008
Lovers and Friends
"The only difference between friends and lovers is about four minutes." (Scott Roeben)
I'm sad to say there's only a thin line between friendship and a relationship, and sometimes if you're not careful you could end up on the wrong side. The stories are common. You know how it goes. People start hanging out and getting along. You like the same food. They dig on the same obscure and random Rock band from the seventies that you love but no one else ever gets. You guys can do anything together. What a great friend. Everything seems all good, but there's a catch. Its usually your own fault for trying to ignore the obvious the whole time, but that friend, that person you thought was safe is becoming increasingly more attractive. Each time you hang out your fantasies, or I mean, the thoughts that go through your head as you contemplate the awkward silence as you two watch the love scene in Mr. and Mrs. Smith , start getting more and more elaborate.
Now this is where the line comes into play because the line has intricate dynamics. One party is surely becoming attracted to the other. There are four potential scenarios that could play out , which are each in turn associated with an emotional response, some good, some bad, which could in part if not wholly determine the fate of your "friendship".
As you two sit there awkward, with a feeling of not knowing what to do as the people on the TV screen indulge in sado-masochistic eroticism, inner will is manifest physically and the moment of truth comes and you attempt to make a move on the other person. This is where the line comes in. Its right there and yes you have just crossed the point of no return. As you advance and wait for a response, you've laid it all out. You've taken that chance. What if they reject you? What if they don't think of you like that? What if you end up being "nice"? Or worst of all what if they end up wanting a, dare I say It?? RELATIONSHIP???? Or the shoe could be on the other foot. What if you're not feeling them like that, and they tried to make a move on you? Have you ever had a friend that liked you and you knew it but they weren't sure if you knew it, so you acted like you didn't know so that you didn't have to be the bad guy and crush their dreams.
The best and worst fate I feel can come when you both develop a mutual attraction and act on it. Its all bad when you do act then you can't agree what side of the line you two now reside. Are you still just Friends? Now only with benefits? It has been 90 days? But in all reality It's more than that. Maybe you weren't looking for a relationship and now its weird when you hang out. Now you've lost a good friend. Just to clarify I'm not knocking relationships that develop from relationships I'm merely attempting to be aware of the intricacies which effect a relationship. Mutual attraction developed within the framework of a good friendship can lead to the most fulfilling of relationships, but we've all heard Aaliyah's one in a million.
A lot of people maintain all kinds of relationships, but the factor that remains consistent is the line. How people navigate the line and situate themselves accordingly there upon is key to a healthy relationship. You have to know where you stand in the big scheme of things, and where ever you stand, make sure you communicate. Make your demands known. Be clear in your objective, And most of all be honest with yourself and others.
I'm sad to say there's only a thin line between friendship and a relationship, and sometimes if you're not careful you could end up on the wrong side. The stories are common. You know how it goes. People start hanging out and getting along. You like the same food. They dig on the same obscure and random Rock band from the seventies that you love but no one else ever gets. You guys can do anything together. What a great friend. Everything seems all good, but there's a catch. Its usually your own fault for trying to ignore the obvious the whole time, but that friend, that person you thought was safe is becoming increasingly more attractive. Each time you hang out your fantasies, or I mean, the thoughts that go through your head as you contemplate the awkward silence as you two watch the love scene in Mr. and Mrs. Smith , start getting more and more elaborate.
Now this is where the line comes into play because the line has intricate dynamics. One party is surely becoming attracted to the other. There are four potential scenarios that could play out , which are each in turn associated with an emotional response, some good, some bad, which could in part if not wholly determine the fate of your "friendship".
As you two sit there awkward, with a feeling of not knowing what to do as the people on the TV screen indulge in sado-masochistic eroticism, inner will is manifest physically and the moment of truth comes and you attempt to make a move on the other person. This is where the line comes in. Its right there and yes you have just crossed the point of no return. As you advance and wait for a response, you've laid it all out. You've taken that chance. What if they reject you? What if they don't think of you like that? What if you end up being "nice"? Or worst of all what if they end up wanting a, dare I say It?? RELATIONSHIP???? Or the shoe could be on the other foot. What if you're not feeling them like that, and they tried to make a move on you? Have you ever had a friend that liked you and you knew it but they weren't sure if you knew it, so you acted like you didn't know so that you didn't have to be the bad guy and crush their dreams.
The best and worst fate I feel can come when you both develop a mutual attraction and act on it. Its all bad when you do act then you can't agree what side of the line you two now reside. Are you still just Friends? Now only with benefits? It has been 90 days? But in all reality It's more than that. Maybe you weren't looking for a relationship and now its weird when you hang out. Now you've lost a good friend. Just to clarify I'm not knocking relationships that develop from relationships I'm merely attempting to be aware of the intricacies which effect a relationship. Mutual attraction developed within the framework of a good friendship can lead to the most fulfilling of relationships, but we've all heard Aaliyah's one in a million.
A lot of people maintain all kinds of relationships, but the factor that remains consistent is the line. How people navigate the line and situate themselves accordingly there upon is key to a healthy relationship. You have to know where you stand in the big scheme of things, and where ever you stand, make sure you communicate. Make your demands known. Be clear in your objective, And most of all be honest with yourself and others.
Thursday, February 14, 2008
Valentines Day
Valentines day is coming up and first things that come to mind are cupid, flowers and candies and hopefully good sex, but thats not what im talking bout today. No need to endorse the consumeristic ideals of such a holiday but there is signifagance in all things. valentines day has a long history and if I had the patience I probably would have read it. I'll take a wild guess that it was invented a long time ago by some guy who happened to have a printing press and a bunch of chocolate colored strawberries, but I could be wrong. Honestly contrary to popular belief I am a hopeless romantic but I'm not delusional. I don't goin' around fallin' in love with everybody but, we've all had our moments. I've always wondered if its possible to find somebody to love just for one day. It's like on Christmas, it sucks when you don't get a gift. And the same thing goes for valentines day. You feel like shit when you don't get none. Can we set up some kind of system? Like an anual sexual buddy system network. Its like you see some one and you find out their not getting any. If you like what you see help each other out. Or maybe craigslist could have some type of hook up ling or something. What im trying to say is that since society's gonna make you feel bad for being single on valentines you got to fight that fire with fire. They say you got to get some so lets work together and make each other feel better on this terrible satan spawned holiday.
Welcome, You Sucka!!!
Hello and welcome to my new blog "Lips Talk" where the discussion revolves around relations between men and women, giving insite into the minds of your opponents. If you you have a question, commentary, or just want to bitch, feel free. Here at lips talk everyone is free to tell it how they see it. Anything or anyone is up for discussion and nothing is taboo, but i do make the request that we respect each others views. Please no hating.
Thursday, January 31, 2008
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